My last post was about love and loving without expectation. Loving from a very sweet place. Loving without regard to what we receive in return. But what about when someone hurts our feelings? What about when someone breaks our heart? What about when it seems someone's only motive is to go for your deepest wound and pour salt on it? What then? How are we supposed to look the other way? Bless our enemies, as scripture says. The honest truth is, I'm not exactly sure. I could sit here and pretend I've got it all together and say you just do it. But, I'd be lying. Best I can tell you is it's a daily work in progress. In my quiet time as I thought about this, I realized its a lot like breaking a bone. If this has happened to you, you know what I'm talking about. Sometimes the bone has to be reset, the movement hurts, terribly. Then a cast is made to secure the break and hold it in place. For a time anyway. After the prescribed time, the cast is removed and the break is healed. Good as new. Only the memory of the break is what's left behind. When someone breaks your heart, whether it be in relationship with a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, mother, child, it hurts. Sometimes our hearts are so shattered, it may have to be reset. We have to hold the hurt and reframe it so we can get past it. The cast for our heartbreak is the mold our loving Father gave us for loving. Bless our enemies, He says. Do not repay evil. If someone takes something that is yours, don't ask for it back. Release them, release the relationship, release the hurt so you can begin to heal. After the prescribed time, we are left with only a memory of the break. We evolve to a whole heart, we evolve to love again.
"I tell you, love your enemies. Help and give without
expecting a return. You'll never --I promise--regret it.
Live out this God-created identity the way our Father
lives toward us, generously and graciously, even when
we're at our worst. Our Father is kind; you be kind."
Luke 6:35-36, The Message
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